最成功的給予者也懂得自我關(guān)懷，而不被接受者無條件索取。即懂得自我關(guān)懷+關(guān)心他人。

Nice is not naive. Nice does not mean smiling blandly while others walk all over you. Nice does not mean being a doormat. In fact, we would argue that nice is the toughest four-letter word you'll ever hear. It means moving forward with the clear-eyed confidence that comes from knowing that being very nice and placing other people's need on the same level as your own will get you everything you want.

Spreading Selfulness

1.Leading by example 2.Encouraging Selfulness(selfish generosity) 3.Terminating war against our selfish nature 4.Celebrating selfulness